Hope this thing about love helps!

这些都是从一本书来的，名叫-“Joshua Harris - Boy Meets Girl"
你可以在谈恋爱的时候利用。
* Learn to express your feelings and frustrations honestly, but without accusing or attacking the other person (Proverbs 11:9)
学会把你的感觉和烦恼坦白的说出来，不过没有冤枉或许得

罪或许攻击你的对象的意思。 (Proverbs 11:9)

* Choose words, expressions, and a tone of voice that are kind and gentle. Don’t use speech that could easily offend or spark an argument (Proverbs 15:1)
选用亲切和温柔的字，或许表情或许语调。避免利用会产生一场架的言讲方式。(Proverbs 15:1)

* Don’t exaggerate, distort, or stretch the truth. Avoid extreme words like never and always (Ephesians 4:25)
不要把事实改变，夸大或许弄长。也避免用过分的字比如说“永远”或许“永远不会”。(Ephesians 4:25)

* Give actual and specific examples. If necessary, make notes before you communicate. Stay away from generalities.
给真实和仔细的举例。如果需要，就做好记录应该说些什么在还没沟通前。尽量避免谈到关于很普通又正常的东西。（这一步是要你找得清楚，在你对象里的态度、问题等等的。）

* Commit yourself to seeking solutions instead of airing your grievances. Getting even isn’t the goal- you want to get things resolved (Romans 12:17-21)
尽量去付出自己的意志来找出解决方式，而不是一直播出你的不满。变得平等并不是你的目的-你要的是东西被解决不是变得平等。 (Romans 12:17-21)

* Listen to what the other person is saying, feeling, and needing. Try to detect his or her underlying concerns (James 1:19)
听对方在说的是什么，需要的是什么，感觉着的是什么。尽量找出来对方心里的担忧，或许关心着什么。(James 1:19)

* Refuse to indulge bitterness, anger, withdrawal, or argument. Though these emotions are normal, indulging in them is sin (Ephesians 4:26)
拒绝沉迷痛苦，愤怒，撤回，或许吵架。虽然这些情绪是正常的，沉迷于它们是罪。(Ephesians 4:26)

* Don’t hesitate to acknowledge your own failure, and be quick to forgive the other person. Make sure you don’t hold a grudge (Luke 17: 3-4)
不必犹豫来认识你的失败，而且快的原谅对方。请记得不要收着仇恨。(Luke 17: 3-4)

* Keep talking and asking questions until you are sure that both of you understand clearly what the other is saying and feeling. Encourage each other as you press toward a solution. (Romans 14:19)
继续的说话和文问题道你们两个明白对方在说什么，感觉些什么。互相鼓励对方在你们找出解决方式。 (Romans 14:19)

* Train your moth and heart until you can say the right thing at the right time in the right way for the right reasons!
训练你嘴巴和心去说对的东西在对的时候用对的方式因为对的原因！

希望可以多多帮助到大家。